Something a little different over at From the Green Notebook.
Rabbi Mordecai Finley sits down to talk with Joe about the power of self-reflection and how it can lead to inner well-being and help reduce conflict in our lives. He also shares lessons from decades counseling couples, earning his black belt in jujitsu, and serving in the Marine Corps following the Vietnam War.S3,Ep7: Rabbi Mordecai Finley- Finding Inner Well-Being
Marine Corps veteran, black belt in jiu-jitsu, thoughtful sage.
I love the military-themed episodes that FTGN puts out, but I’m especially drawn to the stuff that pushes the circle outward.
Diamond Dallas Page was a prime example.
There are great things to learn from our own, and the recent podcast on “the battalion commander effect” is a good example.
But there is so much more out there.
I found myself drawn to Rabbi Mordecai’s thinking and methods. This episode is especially interesting to anyone interested in self-improvement, productivity, well-being, and self-discipline.
There were two things that stuck out to me.
The first was Rabbi Mordecai’s insistence that “you’re never too old.” He didn’t start jiu-jitsu until much later in his life when many of us are starting to pack away our physical hobbies and begin complaining about our knees. There are so many things in our lives that we cast aside as no longer possible due to our age.
Says you, apparently.
How often do you hear lamentations from friends, family, or colleagues over not beginning some skill or hobby earlier in their lives? “
If only I had started when I was younger…” It’s never, “maybe I should start now.”
I’m just as guilty of this as others. It often takes more work and discipline to reach some of those goals (especially physical ones) as we age, but on the flip side, we have a lifetime of experience to apply to the goal. That’s something we often don’t account for. It’s not all about youth.
Take language for example. It’s “common knowledge” that children “soak up” language more effectively than adult learners. Everyone knows that, right?
Well it’s not exactly accurate. There is research that says adult learners may not be as handicapped at language learning as we think. This is because adult learners tend to understand how to better use their time in study and have learned different techniques that they can apply.
Children are just curious and willing to make mistakes. Adults are more self-concious.
The second thing that struck me was the Rabbi’s intonation to not “criticize, condemn, or complain.” This is sage wisdom that you may have seen before.
“Any fool can criticize, complain, and condemn—and most fools do. But it takes character and self-control to be understanding and forgiving.”Dale Carnegie, How to Win Friends and Influence People
It is tried and true and it works.
The episode is worth the listen. You will find yourself inspired.